My little brother and I are six years apart. This is
a big enough age gap that most people assume that we wouldn’t be close growing
up, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. We are, and always have been,
best friends. That being said, we have vastly different personalities. I was
outgoing, popular, and involved as I went through grade school. I did well in
school, I had plenty of extracurricular activities, and I always had friends to
hang out with. My brother, on the other hand, never had a lot of friends, he
was shy around new people, and he had trouble focusing, which contributed to
his extremely poor grades in school. While I was flourishing in the public
school system, he was failing.
In the second grade my mom made the decision to pull
my brother out of public school and homeschool him instead. The decision was
one that was not made lightly, and one that I couldn’t really understand at the
time. In my mind, how could he not love school? He, on the other hand, was
thrilled.
Anyone who believes that homeschooling is a walk in
the park or requires less of the student (or the teacher!) is wrong, and since
I saw both types of schooling firsthand I’d say that homeschooling requires
even more of the person administering the schooling. It took a lot of trial and
error. There were a lot of tears – both from my brother and my mom – while they
worked out the logistics of homeschooling. My mom had never taught anything in
her life, and now she was tasked with teaching my brother his entire education.
It was an intimidating time for her.
After the transition, though, they settled into a
routine. My brother started to do better in school because the experience was
more hands on. Where I thrived by being around peers, my brother thrived by
being by himself. He needed more attention and for someone to ensure that he
stayed on task. Where I needed more independence to do my work and succeed in
school, my brother needed someone that was able to focus solely on him and help
him when he faltered.
Homeschooling and traditional schooling don’t even
come close to being the same type of schooling. However that doesn’t make one
or the other better or worse than the other, because they provide different
things. I was able to implement self-discipline when it came to balancing
school, friends, and extracurricular activities, but my brother was not. He
needed the more intimate structure that homeschooling provided. He also never
suffered from the socialization problems that so many homeschool skeptics
decry; in fact, my brother was more social when he was pulled out of public
school than when he was attending it. This is largely because he was involved
in activities that centered around his own personal interests, and not
classrooms he was forced to sit in.
While homeschoolers may not have the same experience
as public schoolers, that doesn’t mean that they’re school experience is
lacking. Different people thrive in different situations – especially when it
comes to education – and my brother and I are a prime example of that.
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Heather
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1 comment:
I loved reading this post! I totally agree that homeschooling requires much more than public school. I homeschool my kids, always have, but I personally went to public school. I gues this helps me see how different they are and the same in certain ways.
Again, Great Blog!
Keri~ Homeschooling a Kindergartener, 5th grader, and EEEKKK!!! Yes! A High Schooler :)
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